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Witt, an intrepid journalist and mordantly ambivalent memoirist, looks ahead rather than back. With no serious boyfriend in sight---love is rare," she writes, and it is frequently unreciprocated"---she set out to analyze options to a monogamous destiny," enthusiastic for a future in which the primacy and authenticity of a single sexual model" is no longer supposed. Adopting the function of participant observer, she moves through an assortment of sexual subcultures. Many of these are artifacts of the internet, from online dating to sadomasochistic feminist pornography sites to webcam peepshows such as one called Chaturbate. Casual encounters near Moggill Queensland. She expects to seek out hints about what relationships might look like in a amorous, postmarital age.

Weigel, a Ph.D. candidate in comparative literature at Yale, embarked on her charmingly digressive, nonacademic history of American dating after being strung along by a caddish boyfriend torn between her and an ex girlfriend. His confidence that he was entitled to what he desired (even if what he wanted was to be indecisive), compared with her inability to assert her own needs, dismayed her. How retrograde! The sexual revolution had failed her. It did not change gender roles and romantic relationships as radically as they would have to be altered as a way to make everyone as free as the idealists promised," she writes. To understand how she, and women like her, came to feel so dispossessed, she chose to investigate the heritage encoded in the rituals of dating.

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We're in the first phases of a dating revolution. The sheer volume of relationships available through the web is transforming the quality of those relationships. Though it is probably too soon to say exactly how, Witt and Weigel offer a helpful perspective. They are not old fogies of the sort who always sound the alarm whenever fashions of courtship change. Nor are they part of the rising generation of gender-fluid individuals for whom the ever-lengthening list of sexual identities and kinship spells liberation from the heteronormative assumptions of parents and peers. The two writers are (or in Weigel's instance, was, when she wrote her book) single, straight women in their own early 30s. Theirs is the last generation," Witt writes, that lived some part of life with no Internet, who were attempting to adjust our reality to our technology."

Yet the round robin of sex and intermittent attachment doesn't look like much fun. In case you're among the many who've used an internet dating service (among those single and looking," more than a third have), you know how fast dating devolves into work. Tinder's creators modeled their app on playing cards so that it'd seem more like a game than services like OkCupid, which put more emphasis on creating a comprehensive profile. But vetting and being vetted by so many strangers still takes time and joint attention. Like any other freelance operator, you must develop and protect your brand. At its worst, as Moira Weigel observes in her recent book, Labor of Love: The Creation of Relationship, dating is like a volatile kind of contemporary labor: an unpaid internship. You cannot be certain where things are heading, but you make an effort to get experience. Should you look sharp, you might get a free lunch." In Future Sex, another new assessment of current sexual mores, Emily Witt is even more plaintive. I had not sought so much alternative for myself," she writes, and when I discovered myself with absolute sexual freedom, I was miserable."

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The obvious reason behind declining union rates is the general erosion of conventional social customs. A less obvious reason is that the median age for both genders when they first wed is now six years older than it was for their counterparts in the 1960s. In 2000, Jeffrey Arnett, a developmental psychologist at Clark University, coined the term emerging maturity to characterize the long phase of experiment that precedes settling down. Relationship used to be a time-limited means to an end; now, it's frequently an end in itself.

The goal of dating isn't much clearer than its definition. Before the early 1900s, when folks started dating," they called." In other words, guys called on women, and everyone more or less agreed on the point of the visit. The prospective spouses assessed each other in the privacy of her home, her parents evaluated his qualifications, and either they got participated or he went on his way. Over the course of the 20th century, such encounters became more casual, but even tire kickers were expected to produce a purchase earlier instead of later. Five decades past, 72 percent of men and 87 percent of women had gotten married by the time they were 25. By 2012, the scenario had basically reversed: 78 percent of men and 67 percent of women were single at that age.

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Americans are now considered prime candidates for dating from age 14 or younger to close to 30 or older. That's about 15 years, or roughly a fifth of their lives. For an action undertaken over such a very long time period, dating is remarkably hard to qualify. The term has outlasted more than a century's worth of evolving courtship rituals, and we still don't know what it means. Sixth-graders claim to be dating when, after extensive negotiations conducted by third parties, two of them go out for ice cream. Many college students and 20somethings don't begin dating until after they have had sex. Dating can be used to spell out exclusive and nonexclusive relationships, both short term and long term. And now, thanks to cellular programs, dating can entail a series of rendezvous over drinks to take a look at a dizzying parade of matches" made with the swipe of a finger.

If I am really going to convince Anne to look for love in cyberspace, I need to answer her largest objection - that she is so inexperienced in present-day mores that she wouldn't even know how to appraise nominees. So I turned to the pro in love, sex, and marriage who has analyzed and advised our generation since back in the seventies when she wrote about egalitarian sex and "peer marriage" for us at Ms. magazine. Dr. Pepper Schwartz is now the "Love and Relationships Ambassador" for AARP and has worked on developing algorithms for the dating site Her latest book (with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte) is called The Standard Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Extremely Happy Couples and her next, Dating After 50 for Dummies , will be published in December, 2013.

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