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To begin with, you articulated all the things I think about/feel when I do date online. Except, much more eloquently. As a single lady in her early 30s (I feel your dating related pain) it was truly refreshing to read this post. I then immediately read all your other blog posts on dating and being single. Most articles and blog posts I read have a condescending tone towards women or propose shifting themselves in order to be more guy friendly, which is extremely irritating. Your posts on being single and dating offer a whole new view: accepting who you are, being happy with your life as it is currently, but also still believing in love, and giving yourself a rest when being single feels extremely difficult. It was extremely refreshing and I wanted to say that I value it. Also, you've given me a lot to think about re: online dating. I tend to believe it is the SOLE solution to meet folks, but it's actually only one manner. I tell myself it's the only way, because all my friends are married and all their friends are married, also. So, I actually don't get set up very frequently.
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Just as I was really going to quit doing it because I was .... tired of the dating game .... Lenny pinged me. After fourteen days of emailing back and forth, we went out, and have been together ever since. Going strong and hitting 12 years in June. We're best friends, great lovers, started a company together, purchased a house, write Chez Us and travel the world. I'm glad I did not turn it off quite yet that one day in May 12 years ago, or I would have never met my soulmate, and probably would have still been too active, and single at 47.
I was against only dating for a very long time. And I mean truly against. I presumed it was the simple" way out of being single. And then one night in a low moment I downloaded Tinder. Still was not certain about it but figured, why not?." Less than a month later I met the guy who's now my boyfriend as well as the absolute man of my dreams. And you know what? I did not check a single box, or make any demands" other than my location and obviously, that I liked guys. He is NOTHING like what I thought I wanted and due to his ridiculous work schedule, and the two of our feels about bars, I would never have met him otherwise. Individuals can not believe that we met on Tinder because we are so perfect for each other. We simply look at it as fate in the kind of Tinder. So I encourage you or any other single girl not to over think them. It may work, it mightn't. But don't go making judgments or premises. You never understand how God is going to work in your life.
My daughter is in the exact same boat with you. She'll turn 30 in October and is happily single. I guess since she moved from Illinois to Florida for her occupation, meeting a great man became more challenging, only because she left her friends and family behind. Those are the very people who would have been fixing her up. She's attempted the various dating sites, but nothing ever came of it. Yes, she would love to be in a relationship, begin a family one day. But she's also pleased with the independence of being single. When she least expects it, she will meet the perfect man. If she's happy, then I'm a happy mother.
I agree with the majority of your thoughts...actually, nearly all of your opinions. However , I feel like once you get to a specific age, online dating is a necessary evil. I'm also in my early 30's and have been doing it for a little over a year, after coming out of a longterm relationship. I'd rather not need to go down that road, but started the journey optimistically. Ha! I can't really say, it blows. However, as we get old and settled into our lives and professions, the single man population dwindles and (at least where I live) it's very difficult to meet up available men 'naturally.' Perhaps TMI, but if my ovaries did not have a shelf life, I'd only be doing my thing and waiting for Mr. Excellent to magically appear. Unfortunately that is not the situation...
Thank you so much for this! I agree with so a lot of these things! I have several buddies and family who are dating/living with/married to people they meet through internet dating, but nonetheless, it only hasn't worked for me. I've been on internet dating sites off and on for over a year. I've gone a few of decent dates and many dates which make great stories" but none of them have panned out into second dates. And the more awful dates I go on the harder it's to go on more blind on-line dates. I start expecting them to be briefer than they say, have a stutter or come out to me a few days after the date (all of those have occurred). This is such a refreshing outlook to read!!! My mantra is becoming I Had rather have no dates than bad dates" :)
What a fantastic list! I think you're so right about all of these things! My friends which are using dating websites are using several at once...and dating several people at a time as a result of all of the alternatives. I am not positive, but I just do not think splitting your time between several individuals is the means to acquire a mate. You know? A relationship is all-encompassing and it WOn't succeed without 100% focus. That's merely my opinion, however. Playing the field hasn't set right with me. It's like trying to cook 5 things simultaneously. It'll taste better if you focus on 1 recipe at a time ;)
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