I get what you're saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people attempted to reassure me that I was a catch. And I still thing I should be - am tall, trim, look youthful for 48, run my own successful company, understand just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic location (Alaska). As a result I'm very busy so online dating looked like the solution. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the amount of women who have written back and no genuine dates. I decided women in my date range and attractiveness range. Just to check I wrote to quite elderly women and less appealing than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped almost every woman. Attempted all kinds of pictures. Nothing. while I speak to my female friends they say they're inundated. The sole dates I've had, 2, were from old friends who both told me they had been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. At Meetups women seem interested however they don't respond. Just don't comprehend this, it's as if they expect me to pursue them and I am unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my union was souring forever alienated good buddies. Casual Encounter nearby Petersham NSW. Really out to sea on all this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years ago.
I feel like I am aging out" of internet dating. I've detected after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing. It's as though proceeding from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death knell for a dating life. I begin contact with guys in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The possible matches that the website sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look in the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I frequently go past them, knowing I can't compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those guys are as much as 5-8 years older than me! To put it differently, intentionally sends me matches which are probably not realistic for me to pursue. When I have e-mailed some of those guys, I don't hear back. I'm guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I'm within their desired range, I still do not get much of a response. I assume the reason behind this is they can get younger women to react to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year old version of me? If their first wife was their age, such as, for instance, a college honey or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. Our culture supports this. It's frustrating, as well as depressing and more than a little humiliating. It's the builtin folly of on-line websites: you are simply defined by your actual age, in bold type right next to your user name.
One more thing. I would like to ask all my middleaged internet dating male and female compatriots a favor. Please, let's rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, sexy, drama-free, and easygoing. And these, let's omit these also: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I loathe talking about myself, but..." and any and all derivatives of "my buddies/mom/ex-husband/kids tell me that..I am a glass-half-total optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I believe that if we can all really agree to clean up our profiles then maybe, just perhaps, we can find some common ground and get back to the business of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
Quit Using Your Profile to Complain about Men. Several guys noticed how many women's online dating profiles are contained mainly of complaints about men - either their profiles, or their behavior in general. I agree with the guys on this one. There is absolutely no point in using your profile narrative as a soapbox for your negative perception of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes use a site for that). So while I'm certain there are guys (and women) out there who are logged on and behaving badly, I really believe that women must take responsibility for their own choices. We can maintain our positive expectations while at the same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something isn't quite right. Much too frequently some women are guided not by common sense, but by wishful thinking as well as a desire to be nice and not seem rude, so we ignore the large, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and continue without caution. I once met a woman who expressed great sadness that she just couldn't trust the guys she met online. She then continued to tell me a story about any of these men who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via email. He told her stories of his limitless wealth and his links to powerful people all over the world. She slept with him on the second date (after he assured to whisk her off to a private island that next weekend). But that is not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be checked by "his people." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Complaining about how she could just no longer trust men she met online was a bit like whining about how she could simply no longer trust Nigerian princes.
Tone Down the Boudoir Photos. You say you want a quality guy who honors you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, after which you post pictures of yourself next to your bed (or in your bed, or in your bed, or in somebody else's bed). And if you're not posting photographs of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you are posting photographs with way too much cleavage. Now, that is certainly wonderful - I don't have any trouble at all with this, and I am sure many men do not have a problem either - but what some guys do have a problem with is when women place said super-sexy glamour photos and then complain to their friends, or make statements on their profiles about how all men are dogs and only want them for sex. Casual encounter closest to Petersham, New South Wales. And while we are on the topic of complaint-filled profiles...
Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I despise the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you most likely adore them), but I do believe it's important that we at least strive for honesty. The word on the street is that way too many women out there in the online dating world are utilizing the "fit and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this complaint applies to guys also, of course). The matter is, there actually isn't anything wrong with having an around average (or curvy) body so let's take the pressure off ourselves and heed the guidance of Amy Schuler, and recognize once and for all that a little meat on our bones is not going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (right, good guys?).
No. More. Instagram. Photographs. I really like Instagram photographs because many of the filters make my eyes look strikingly blue (or green, or lavender), and some even shave about 10 years off my face. But do I post these photographs on my online dating profile? No I do not. Why? Because my eyes are not really that blue (or green or lavender), and I am about 10 years older than my Instagram pictures would have you believe. This was the number one criticism among the guys I interviewed - artistically filtered (i.e., delusory) photographs. Truth in advertising ladies, truth in marketing.
Manner too Many Pet Photos. This was a huge criticism among the guys I interviewed. They're looking at your profile to find out more about you, not your pets. Casual encounter in Petersham, Australia. So delete the pet photographs, especially the ones without you in them. Oh and while we are on the topic of pet pictures, I have a private request of all you single, middle aged women out there on dating websites: please, please, please delete any and all photographs of your cats. This really is really important. I can not stress it enough. Single, middle aged women already must handle far too many negative stereotypes, and also the cat photographs (you cuddling with your cats, you kissing your cats, multiple cats on your own bed) only function to augment them. I once wrote a blog post about how dating sometimes made me feel unwanted , and I got hundreds of comments from single middle-aged men throughout all of North America notifying me that I must live in a dark apartment with 100 or so cats, so actually, please delete them.
Last week I discussed my six pet peeves about middle-aged men's online dating profiles , and I promised everyone that this week I Had focus on middle aged women's online dating profiles. Since I'm much more comfortable with men's profiles, I recruited some of my single male friends (and the Twittersphere) to help me with this post. This list is my best attempt at summarizing the outcomes of my informal survey, with some of my own observations predicated on a bit of research I ran myself. Disclaimer: if you are a woman between the ages of 45 and 60, living in the Chicagoland region, and I popped up on your "Viewed Me" list, I'm sorry, really. Anyway, here goes:
I can not say it any clearer than this: Do not post any selfies of yourself looking into your own bathroom mirror, period. Casual encounter closest to New South Wales. Seeing a guy standing next to an open toilet, or maybe a toilet paper dispenser, is an instant turn off. Take a selfie the way everyone else in the world does, by using a selfie stick and pretending as even though you are doing something fun (like fishing or watching football). Or, should you not have a selfie stick, shoot your profile photo the old fashioned way by tapping the reverse camera view on your smart phone and then snapping a selfie in your car. Worst comes to worst, have a friend take an action shot of you standing alone with a glass of wine pretending to laugh at someone just out of view. In the event you don't have a single friend who can take your photograph, or you do not own a smartphone, then you likely shouldn't be dating in the first place.
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